How To Talk About Sex Toys With Your Partner

How To Talk About Sex Toys 

It’s not enough to start the conversation and tell your partner what you want (though that’s very important). You also need to listen to your partner, too. They may have had bad experiences in the past or have concerns. In order to make an informed decision, they may have questions. Answer what you can and look up what you don’t know. This is a process so even if they’re not as enthusiastic as you are right now, with time, they may be ready to try it with you. Be patient with them.

Talk About The Fun

They’re called “toys” for a reason, right? You’re supposed to play and have fun! Whether it’s squirting orgasms or longer sex, point out the positives of what a sex toy might do for you both. Try something like, “You know how you love it when I have multiple orgasms, but it doesn’t always happen? This vibrator can do that, and then we can have even more fun while I come.”

Before you have this conversation, think about what excites your partner during sex so you can appeal to their sense of fun.